CP Issue #25: What Scares You About Wealth?
THE COPY PROTÉGÉ
Issue #25
June 9, 2006
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something is more important than fear.”
– Ambrose Redmoon, Writer (1933-1996)
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IN THIS ISSUE:
* What Scares You About Wealth? by Monica Day
* Resource Referral: Master Swipe File
* Resource Referral: A Link That Works
* Quick Copy Tip: So What?? By Monica Day
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WHAT SCARES YOU ABOUT WEALTH? by Monica Day
When I tell you that making money is a decision, you’ll be tempted to be angry with me. I know because I spent years being mad at people who said the same thing to me.
Until I discovered that they are 100% correct.
The only thing standing in your way of earning what you want, doing what you want, or creating the life you envision…is fear.
I once had a debate that I realize now was meaningless – about the difference between fear of success and fear of failure. While we both had valid points about which was more debilitating…(I had the former and my sparring partner had the latter)…it is clear to me now that the common denominator of the two is still fear.
Fear keeps us ‘in our place.’
Fear makes us feel insignificant and act small.
Fear holds us back from forging meaningful connections with people.
Fear influences the risks we take and the dreams we entertain.
Fear shows us a world of limits and barriers.
Fear feeds on bad habits and breathes the air of self-doubt.
Fear sabotages our brilliance, undermines our efforts, and obscures our strengths.
The worst part is that most of us have lived with our fear for so long, we no longer recognize it. We have this vague feeling that pops up and controls our actions, but we don’t know why. Like a plane landing on auto-pilot, when the wheels touch down and we find ourselves back down on the runway, even the pilot can’t explain exactly how we managed to get back safely on the ground.
So it is with fear – it takes us on a wild ride all while providing the illusion of safety and security.
Often, we don’t even recognize the many ways fear masks itself and stands in our way. Insecurity, skepticism, pessimism, procrastination, underachievement, excessive caution, inappropriate abandon, depression…all of these and then a few more I’ve left off can be manifestations of fear.
When you indulge your fears and make decisions to accommodate them, you’ve also made a decision to limit yourself in some way. Until you can breach that divide within yourself between your self-concept and your true potential…you’ll find detours and roadblocks at every turn on your way to wealth.
What’s Packed In Your Bags?
I became keenly aware that I had some baggage to unpack in this area myself about five years or so ago. In a rare heart-to-heart with my younger brother, he confessed that he always wanted to become a lawyer. Instead, he went into the military and now works as a construction manager. He’s done fine for himself, and has nothing to be ashamed of…but he had a different path in his heart that he couldn’t allow himself to follow.
When I asked him why he didn’t pursue law school, his reply broke my heart…
“People like us don’t really get to do that…”
I knew exactly what he meant – because I grew up thinking the same exact thing about my dreams. Nothing stood in our way, exactly. We were both smart – usually top in our class. We both attended college and got diplomas (first in our families to do so). We started working early, and always worked hard – never sponging money from our parents for various young adult indulgences.
But still, we had grown up with lots of negative messages about people who didn’t do ‘real work’ for a living. Doctors, lawyers and corporate types weren’t thought of too fondly. Artists, writers and actors were flaky and couldn’t support themselves. And the very, very wealthy were regarded with a mixture of envy and disdain.
It was ‘us’ and ‘them.’ And in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, when my brother and I chose our professions, we knew we were also choosing sides.
Your baggage might be different from mine when it comes to money. But most of us have a piece of luggage or two stashed away in our psyche when it comes to wealth and class.
I know people who were born into money who are strapped by a crushing sense of guilt – what have they done to deserve their wealth and riches, they wonder? Then, there are those who feel entitled to wealth – but expect that it should be handed to them regardless of the effort they put in or value they provide to others in exchange for a buck.
No matter where you fall into this discussion, I can guarantee you one thing: if you aren’t in complete harmony with your financial circumstances, it’s probably going to take more than learning a certain skill…or winning the lottery…or picking the right stock at the right time…to cross the divide into the level of wealth you desire.
It’s probably going to take a little soul-searching too. When you find the hidden key – the one that turns the lock on your earning potential and opens the floodgates, you’ll know it.
Lots of potential copywriters who contact me and Krista ask us the same question: is it too good to be true? What if ‘it’ doesn’t work for me? It’s hard for us to indulge these questions – not that we can’t sympathize with the desire to get an answer. But, unfortunately, we can’t answer that question for anyone but ourselves. We can tell you what we’ve done. And what we know has worked for many of our colleagues.
But ultimately, you have to discover for yourself if copywriting holds the key to your wealth. Or if something else would be a better fit.
Or if the path to wealth for you has less to do with learning the right skill and more to do with changing your mind about what is possible for you.
Of course, once you get past this stumbling block, you have another deeper, perhaps more important question to face…
How do you define personal success?
More on this next week. (Yes, I’ve been called a tease before…I can take it.)
Until then, I’ll leave you with this quote – originated by Marianne Williams and popularized by Nelson Mandela. It is a quote I seek to live as a daily practice. It is as good a starting place as any to determine just how successful you are willing to become in your life:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Have a liberating week…
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RESOURCE REFERRAL: MASTER SWIPE FILE
I’ve stumbled upon an assignment that I didn’t quite mean to take on, and now a 1200-word e-blast has turned into a 20-page career-defining promotional package. And I’m still scratching my head wondering how it happened…and how I’m going to jam it into an already-packed schedule.
Of course, I’m not looking for sympathy. I realize every day that all of my professional problems are good ones. But still…I was desperate for a little help.
Fortunately, one of the best copywriters in the business is the copy chief for the assignment – and we’d both like to see it succeed. He revealed a gem of a website to help me get a crash course in some copy he’d like me to mimic for the project. And I’ve got to tell you, this is the best swipe file a copywriter could ever want. Best of all, access is free – as long as you register and answer a few questions.
I’ll admit, I was tempted to keep this site to myself. But if the copywriting masters who have been so generous with me kept all their secrets to themselves, I certainly wouldn’t be writing you this note today! So by all means, check it out and put it to good use: www.hardtofindads.com
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RESOURCE REFERRAL: A LINK THAT WORKS
Last week we told you about a teleconference that our friend Chris Marlow is hosting – for free, I might add. Unfortunately, the link was broken. So here’s the one that works if you want to register for the call: http://www.SuccessfulSelfMarketing.com
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QUICK COPY TIP: SO WHAT??? By Monica Day
A couple weeks ago I related the importance of specificity in your copy. This week, the copy pro who is working with me on that blossoming, unexpected new assignment gave me a great exercise guaranteed to generate a powerful level of specificity.
Here’s how you do it…
List all the features and benefits of your product. Then, take each entry on your list and ask yourself after each one: So what?
Keep asking – and answering – the question until you get three, four, even five layers deep. It is there where you will find the best nuggets to write the most powerful copy – and sell the most – for your client.
I’ll be putting this to the test this week. I’ll let you know how it goes.
